Things To Remember When You’re In A Relationship

• Remember your friends. Friendship is not a vase you can stick in a corner and dust off when you’re ready to use it—it’s a live thing that must be cared for, nourished. Whether you’re in a relationship for the next few months or the rest of your life, your friendships are important and necessary. They will keep you from spinning out of control in ways that your relationship can’t.

• Don’t neglect them or take advantage of them. Don’t neglect or take advantage of your partner, either. Remember that they are a person with a family, a dream, a past. Let them be human and make the mistakes you’re both bound to repeat over and over again. Pick your battles. Let them have a bad day at work. Let them call you when they’re drunk. Let them pursue what’s important to them, even when it doesn’t include you.

• Pursue what’s important to you. Remember that you’re an individual; that your personal success matters. Have something other than ‘Really awesome girlfriend! :D’ on your resume. Take pride in something. Keep tucked away in the back of your mind that, should there be a breakup, your partner will not be able to take custody of the things you’ve accomplished.

• Remember to keep your balance. Remember that your friendships and your family and your job and your alone-time predate your relationship. Consider the ebb and flow of your life: sometimes one thing may need to take precedence for a stretch of time, but it’s up to you to maintain equilibrium when possible. Be fair when divvying up your time—to others, and definitely to yourself.

• Take care of your body. Biology doesn’t brake for monogamous relationships. Go to the doctor. Protect yourself. Proceed with caution.

• Take care of your mind. If you’re hoping the relationship will fix your broken parts, look forward to being disappointed. No matter how many years you spend with someone, you’re still the sole proprietor of your happiness. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to change how you feel about yourself or your situation.

• Notice the way your partner treats people: friends, colleagues, waitstaff. You’re probably getting them at their best, but if you’re appalled by their worst, remember that you might one day find yourself getting the brunt of it. Remember that you are not immune to anything.

• You can’t control the course of your relationship or the actions of your partner, but remember that you’re welcome to exercise free will and make the changes you find necessary. If you’re not happy, leave. Someone loved you once and someone will love you again.

• Remember that someone loves you. Maybe it’s one or both of your parents, maybe it’s your friends, maybe it’s your partner. If it’s all three, consider yourself lucky. Remember to love back.

 xoxo,

Sheena <3>

Hand In My Pocket

by Alanis Morissette

I'm broke but I'm happy
I'm poor but I'm kind
I'm short but I'm healthy, yeah
I'm high but I'm grounded
I'm sane but I'm overwhelmed
I'm lost but I'm hopeful baby
What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be fine fine fine
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving a high five
I feel drunk but I'm sober
I'm young and I'm underpaid
I'm tired but I'm working, yeah
I care but I'm restless
I'm here but I'm really gone
I'm wrong and I'm sorry baby

What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be quite alright
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is flicking a cigarette
And what it all comes down to
Is that I haven't got it all figured out just yet
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving the peace sign
I'm free but I'm focused
I'm green but I'm wise
I'm hard but I'm friendly baby
I'm sad but I'm laughing
I'm brave but I'm chickenshit
I'm sick but I'm pretty baby

And what it all boils down to
Is that no one's really got it figured out just yet
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is playing the piano
And what it all comes down to my friends
Is that everything's just fine fine fine
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is hailing a taxi cab


xoxo,

Sheena <3>

I Am Not An Accident

I am your Creator, You were in my care even before you were born.

Isaiah 44:2a

I am not an accident.

My birth was no mistake or mishap, and my life is no fluke of nature. My parents may not have planned me, but God did. He was not at all surprised by my birth. In fact, he expected it. Long before I were conceived by my parents, I were conceived in the mind of God. He thought of me first. It is not fate, nor chance, nor luck, nor coincidence that I am breathing at this very moment. I am alive because God wanted to create me!

God prescribed every single detail of my body. he deliberately chose my race, the color of my skin, my hair, and every other feature. he custom-made my body just the way He wanted it. He also determined the natural talents I could possess and the uniqueness of my personality.

Because god made me for a reason, he also decided when I would be born and how long I would live. He planned the days of my life in advance, choosing the exact time of my birth and death.

God also planned where I'd be born and where I'd live for his purpose. My race and nationality are no accident. God left no detail to chance. He planned it all for his purpose. Nothing in my life is arbitrary. It's all for a purpose.

Most amazing, God decided how I would be born. Regardless of the circumstances of my birth or who my parents are, God had a plan in creating me. It doesn't matter whether my parents were good, bad, or indifferent. God knew that those two individuals possessed exactly the right genetic make-up to create the custom "me" He had in mind. They had the DNA God wanted to make me.

I have carried you since you were born; I have taken care of you from your birth. Even when you are old, I will be the same. Even when your hair has turned gray, I will take care of you. I made you and I will take care of you.

Isaiah 46:3-4

God never does anything accidentally, and he never makes mistakes. He has a reason for everything he creates.

If there was no God, we would all be "accidents", the result of astronomical random chance in the universe where life would have no purpose or meaning or significance. There would be no right or wrong, and no hope beyond your brief years here on earth.

But there is God who made us for a reason, and our life has profound meaning! We discover that meaning and purpose only when we make God the reference point of our lives.

God's motive for creating me, us was his love.

This poem of Russell Kelfer sums it up:

You are who you are for a reason.

You're part of an intricate plan.

You're a precious and perfect unique design,

Called God's special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.

Our God made no mistake.

He knit you together within the womb,

You're just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,

And no matter how you may feel,

They weer custom-designed with God's plan in mind

And they bear the Master's seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.

And God wept that it hurt you so;

But it was allowed to shape your heart

So that into his likeness you'd grow.

You are who you are for a reason,

You've been formed by the master's rod.

You are who you are, beloved,

Because there is a God.

Based from Purpose Driven Life book by Rick warren, Day 2: I Am Not An Accident

xoxo,

Sheena <3>

How To Start Your Own Business

We all want to start our own businesses. Some of us dream of becoming the bosses to our own companies, whether big or small. No one wants to stay at home and do nothing. Why? Once people start to get comfortable at staying in their houses, they tend to forget the need for working hard to earn their own money.

Let us all remember that success comes from our own efforts. I haven't met someone who has reached his dream without exerting great efforts. Below are some of the useful tips and tricks which may be used as reference when it comes to building new businesses.

1. Identify what you really want.

The most important thing to do is to know what you really want. Before anything else, you must be sure what kind of industry to enter. Study all the basics before you plan on the investments to make. When you do this, there is a high guarantee that you would be able to achieve your dreams. Remember, you need to take one step at a time.

2. Choose the right people and companies.

It takes two to tango. Make sure that you seek for the help and assistance from the people surrounding you. For example, if you want to construct a new building in town, all you need is to look for the best company that can provide everything you need. There are established firms like Cordell who offers Cordell Commercial Projects.

3. Put all your love and efforts for the business.

With out your passion and love for the business, it will not prosper. Do not forget the importance of loving what you want. Failure to do this can turn your plans upside down. When you start to love every single thing about the business, you tend to become happier.

xoxo,

Sheena <3>

The Value Of Work

Everything has value no matter how insignificant or simple it is.

At the mere mention of work, one immediately connects with it the idea of toil and fatigue which pertains to a slave who overdoes things in a difficult manner. Everything in this world involves work.

In what light should work be viewed? Anything that comes out from something done is achieved by means of labor and work. It is of two-fold nature, either mental or physical. Both are indispensable to the well-being of human society. Our attention is directed towards physical labor.

Christianity teaches us to regard work as something sacred and honorable. Work is duty. You must not only value work highly, you must also love it heartily. Without it, order and cleanliness can never exist in the house. State of affairs would be a mess and discomfort prevails.

People who work and are kept busy have no time for hanging around, gossiping, or being with bad company. Women who are fond of work are more virtuous and pure. There is no dull moment in their lives, there is so much to gain when they are physically preoccupied.

Be proud, therefore, and love your work. Do it diligently and make it your best. Treat it as an inseparable friend. Whatever the nature of your work may be, do it with care and industry. If it is a domestic chore, do not find fault and make critical remarks, but put your hand to everything.

If your work is to be really done well, if it is to gain merit for yourself, perform it with good intention. Yes, be patient, for without patience, no labor, toil or work can be meritorious in the eyes of Someone above.

These lines speak well of this:

Swiftly time speeds on its way
See that thou use it well.
Let each hour of every day
be a tale of wisdom tell.

xoxo,

Sheena <3

Crap

Dedicated to everyone who needs some words of encouragement…

“When an emotional injury takes place,

The body begins a process

As natural as the healing

Of a physical wound

Let the process happen.

Trust that nature

Will do the healing.

Know that the pain will pass,

And, when it passes

You will be stronger;

Happier, more sensitive and aware.”

There was this girl who always dreamed of having someone… someone to hold… someone to lean on… someone to love… and someone to share the rest of her days with. Then suddenly out of nowhere, someone came along… someone that made her life worth living for… someone that made her feel complete… they were lost in their own world… staring deeply into each others eyes… sharing laughter and tears… but it didn’t end there. They had so many memories to look back on… through letters, to pictures, to trials and tribulations… nothing tears them apart… till fate stepped in. There was the girl, lying on the ground crying in a river of tears… “How could this happen? How her only love could deceive her, was the love she give him not enough? What did she do wrong? Then she stopped crying, wiped the last tear on her cheek and ask help from above… and soon she began to realize that after awhile a person will learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, then she will learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t mean security, and then she learns that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises, and finally she would begin to accept her defeats with her head up and her eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child, then she would learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much… so the girl finally decided to plant her own garden and decorate her own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring flowers, she then told herself, I can endure, I am strong. I have worth.

Well you see life is trial and error, we win some we lose some, but through it all we learn to accept, to forgive, and to have the courage to say… life goes on.

xoxo,

Sheena <3

The Arabic Kitchen (Philippines)

I had a second thought (not just second though) in posting this blog post. But anyway I will, I shall post or blog about this.

Question on my mind..

Will I invite my family or friends to eat at this restaurant? Hhmm.. My answer will be a BIG NO! First, you're not sure if there food are fresh. Because they serve left-over foods from last night or yesternight or should I say na iyong tira nung nakaraang araw. Second, if that certain food or dessert is already three (3) days old, it should be garbage already. Is it the FRESH food they say to us before that restaurant started to operate? Is that what they told us before that any food that are serve for a certain day should be and shall be served only on that they? CRAZYness!!! Third, you're not sure if where your food came from or where they put the raw meat etchetera. Just for example to what we (Abby, Gyn and me) saw yesterday (August 1, 2012) that the raw meat was place at the floor kung saan tinapak-tapakan nila before they put that raw lamb meat and that area was just near to a drainage or whatever they may call it, where almost all of the dirt of the kitchen are there.

Will I recommend this restaurant to a friend or to whoever who needs a job? My answer will still be a BIG NO! First, maganda lang sila sa una pero kapag andyan na, wala na. Second, they don't have one word. Third, they don't have a certain policy. They always change their minds every now and then kaya gumugulo ang operation. Fourth, they don't have CARE for there employees. Fifth, employees don't have there regular break at ang break ay thirty (30) minutes lang. Sixth, you'll experience everything here..ang masigawan..ang murahin..ang ipahiya sa harap ng ibang tao. Seventh, the mere fact that Arabs smells bad! Haha! *peace*

The Arabic Kitchen

Located at Adriatico Street, Ermita Manila just infront of Tower 1 Robinsons Manila.

450-0000

That is for now.. I'll pdate this post SOON!!!

xoxo,

Sheena <3